Sometimes we try things and they don’t work out as we want them to even when we’ve given it everything we could. We feel miserable and possibly devastated as it might’ve been something that we wanted or were training for very long.

I’m a Hindu by religion and one of the best holy books I’ve read is Bhagvat Gita (भगवत गीता) . In this sacred text it’s written that we can only control our actions but not their results (तेरा कृतव्य कर्म ही है उसके फल में नहीं). 

We’re presented with opportunities or situations where we’ve to make decisions. On most occasions these aren’t easy decisions like buying bread. In almost all such decisions we’ve to try and maintain a balance between loosing something and getting something.

But once we make up our mind it’s important that we must not think either of what has been lost or scared of how we’ll get. This makes you not give 100% of your energy to the decision(s) you made and the more you think about it the more you’ll be in fear and doubt and sometimes loose faith in god.

In Bhagvat Gita, the supreme lord, says that once you’ve made a decision just work on it without worrying about how you’ll get. Give everything and make it as an offering to god (अपने कर्मो को भगवान को अर्पण करो और फल की चिंता मत करो). When you don’t do this you feel bitter, angry, frustrated which causes you to choose actions that seem to give relief from these feelings for a while but then you get trapped and continue to do such actions.

Action(s) which seems harmless and fun at the time but gives pain and suffering in the long run, the supreme lord says, it’s venom(विष). While action(s) which seems hard and painful at the time but brings joy and peacefulness in the long term, the supreme lord says, it is immortal nectar (अमृत). 

Just by doing this you’ll come out of fear of loosing, making plan Bs and loosing faith in god. Remember we can only choose our actions but not their results.